I guess this is the time to vent about experiences today with wedding and bridesmaids! Being involved with recent wedding and now with coordinating one for in the family, there’s a few things in ediquette that now a days I don’t understand. Maybe it’s just laziness or even this generation of bridesmaids – at least from what we have encountered, they just want to be a part of the wedding to stand there and look pretty, then reap the rewards of having a free party celebration at the wedding reception. Beyond any of that, there’s no initiative from neither the maid of honor or any of the bridesmaids organizing or stepping up to make plans for any of the wedding. Not even the bridal shower!!! What is it with these girls today, there used to be long standing traditions from the girls, helping the bride plan her wedding. It was even traditional for the bridesmaids and maid of honor to plan and organize the bridal shower. From what we are seeing today, the bride is basically on her own with the exception of her parents guiding her through the planning process. The Mom or someone close in her family is even doing all the planning and organizing of the bridal shower…….Hmmmmm, there’s something wrong with this picture. I think it is difficult enough for the bride focussing her attention on the details of her wedding, think about it, the bride deserve the best that she can get or have, this is something she has dreamt of since the age of 16 or younger, a fairytale wedding. She has many worries now that she is going to wed the man of her dreams so fo course every detail must be in perfection. So she has to worry about where she will be getting married and by whom, which part of the season she’ll get married in which now brings in the type of wedding or the theme that she has to plan. With that in mind, now comes the wedding decorations, color scheme, planning of the wedding reception, the food or caterer, the DJ, the invitations and all the other little things like wedding favors, table centerpieces, the wedding cake and shall I go on. There are a mulititude of planning and organizing that Must take place to have a successful wedding. After witnessing these events, now I can see why these brides (Some anyways) become what we call Bridezillas !! These soon to be bride are left on their own with planning and organizing their own event. Now I ask, it this fair to the bride, especially when these bridesmaid and the maid of honor are ask to be part or their special day. Heck, I have even withnessed when all the dresses, including the wedding dress came in, do you think that any of the wedding party went with the bride to pick their dresses up……There’s a BIG FAT NO. They were all told the dresses were in and asked them several times to go get them together. The bride herself ended up picking, at that point she had to. The bridal shop where she purchased them from said they don’t warehouse dresses!!!!(David’s Bridal) That’s another story in itself!!!!!! So where has the true wedding tradition gone? It’s suppose to be one of the most happiest moments for the bride and it becomes a struggle know she is virtually on her own. For all of you bridesmaids and maid of honors out there, wake up!!! Let’s not forget why you are part of this ceremony and grand celebration, it is not about you and what you are going to get for free. You will be getting married at some point and think about it, you will need help, unless you are already married, then shame on you for entertaining the lack of participation.
